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Ground Rules

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ground-rulesAfter completing Exercise 1: Pay Me What I’m Worth Ground Rules, share thoughts on this exercise in the comment box below.

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6 thoughts on “Ground Rules

  1. I am very happy that our ground rules are simple and makes it safe for me also. Coming in with an open mind to explore is refreshing. Guilt free, shame free, worry free and pressure free are our ground rules. Coming in without judgements and criticisms really sets the stage for me. When things feel good, I know I am in the right place. 🙂

    1. Feelings! A powerful teacher ehh? More so than thoughts – the birthplace of doubt, guilt, shame and worry. It’s a thought that triggers feelings of less-than – true? I wonder, how might these ground rules ripple into daily life?

  2. Hi Marsha here again. I had a real aha moment today in a statement made in the book concerning paying to my favorite charity 100T dollars for every occasion of doubt, guilt, shame and worry I entertain. I remember what I was thinking when I saw the ground rules in Pay Me What I Am Worth for the first time. I thought wow, how do I stop worrying. How does anyone stop worrying just like that?

    When I read all the ground rules, it sounded great and then I read about having to write a check to my favorite charity. I thought to myself well, now that’s interesting. Reading this about writing a check to my favorite charity was definitely not going to happen. That statement of writing out a 100T dollar check I will always remember as it as a significant statement in the book because it helped to become aware even more so of every time I allowed doubt, worry, guilt and shame start filling my brain. An awareness started happening to be mindful of what I am doing to myself.

    Today I know I have less worry, doubt, guilt and shame thoughts that come into play. I do not have time for nonsense as I call it now. I have come to the point where whenever i do hear my analyzer talking, I used to say to it, “Okay, thank you. Here is your hug and please go sit in the corner. Now I am giving you a job ad a very important job it is. Please take a nap as rest is most important. There have been a few occasions where I have told my analyzer, “Nonsense, now you’re talking silly because you know as well as I do that things change. Look at the the changes already in my life that I have been through.” Then we chuckle together.

    1. One of the more fascinating tasks I challenge my inner chaos committee members is the task of evolving. I re-frame evolution in the form of a job promotion. I invite my inner critic to apply for the new job of advocate; my inner perfectionist to apply for the teacher spot, the judge needs to apply for the diplomat role. Unless they apply for their new roles they face permanent ‘retirement.’

      The more I embrace my ‘old self’ with an awareness that what was ‘ripened’ me into what I am today – with gratitude – evolution happens more effortlessly. 😉

      Rock on Marsha! You’re doing hard – amazing work!

  3. Im very happy with tonights class .i came into tonights class with an open mind. I VOW TO MYSELF THAT I WILL strive to practice these ground rules and practicing nonjudgement or criticism every day. I find it very difficult though in my profession of working with troubled youth when my co-workers are continuously judging, bashing, bad mouthing fellow staff and the kids we work with,not to fall into that same behavior. I am normally a very easy going person and try to get along with everyone and value others opinions, but feel that Im almost like falling into their way of thinking. And after I go home I feel terrible, because I don’t want to be that person . I find this to be a huge challenge for me! But my goal is to overcome this ! Thankyou for everything Marsha and
    Kareem!

    1. Aloha Connie! As you discover the magic of releasing the unhealthy habits known as doubt, guilt, shame and worry you’ll find yourself at ease with even the most difficult souls. How so? It becomes more apparent that while it’s appropriate to empathize with others ya need not take on their stuff! Right? Just because someone feels strongly about judging someone or something doesn’t mean you need to follow along. Right?

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